Some days are hard. And it’s completely okay to admit that!
Do you ever have those days where you wake up out of bed only to realize it’s going to be “one of those days”? You know, the days where everything just seems to go wrong? No matter how hard you try to be productive, everything feels extra hard for no apparent reason? You feel fatigued, emotionally worn out, and honestly, you feel really irritable.
I recently experienced this type of day. Usually, I am able to see the bright side of things and recognize that in the grand scheme of things, my troubles are trivial. Still, some days just suck. There are days where I still get irritated for no apparent reason. Society says that we simply need to shift our mindset. Or that we need to focus on “positive vibes only”. But I learned a valuable lesson about acknowledging (and embracing) the suck.
Some days just suck…
My alarm clock woke me up at 5 a.m. and I did not want to get out of bed. It felt as though I literally laid my head down just to wake up to an annoying alarm. I couldn’t remember what kind of sleep I had the previous night because I felt like I hadn’t slept at all. After 20 minutes, I finally got up, brushed my teeth, and started my day. It instantly felt hard.
A few times a week, I tutor Chinese children in English. Most days it’s easy and not really emotionally taxing. But of course, the one morning I wake up in a bad mood, it just so happened that my first class of the day was problematic. I already woke up in a funk and of course, my morning starts off rocky. All I wanted to do was crawl back in bed and sleep in.
I (almost) envied my husband’s willpower of getting out of bed and actively choosing to run at 6 a.m. in the 25-degree weather. So I did what I try to do when I have these “off” kind of days. I made myself be productive in hope that I would feel better afterward. Well, it still didn’t change my mood. But at least I got the dishes cleaned…
After I drank my coffee and began to work on my other tasks for the day, I felt like I kept hitting a brick wall. I felt so much resistance and felt super irritable that things just weren’t working out. I complained about things not being easy and that I wished social media platforms could just streamline because it would make my job that much easier. (Honeslty, I still wish this.) Again, I realize how silly this may sound but I know that we’ve all had these kinds of days. I mean, I literally just did an episode with my husband a couple of weeks ago about this very thing. No matter how hard things felt, I kept trying to change my mindset. I kept trying to force myself to be productive. But how productive are you really when you’re in an incredibly bad mood and *everything* keeps going wrong?
Then I had a thought…
Some days are hard, but it’s completely okay to admit that
Shifting our mindset has incredible power. Focusing on the positive allows us to hold onto hope. But can we also agree that some days feel harder than others without all of the bypassing thrown in? Like, it’s okay to be frustrated. It’s okay to have bad days! Feeling frustrated and irritable are totally normal human feelings. Yes, we can shift our mindset. But what if that also looks like acknowledging that we’re still valid if we’re having a bad day? What if “shifting our mindset” simply meant that we allowed ourselves time to process our frustration? What if “shifting our mindset” simply meant that we allowed ourselves to sit with our irritation?
Bad days happen. Yes, it’s important to focus on the good. We shouldn’t not make mountains out of molehills. But, it’s equally important to allow ourselves to feel our real and true emotions. It’s important not to bypass our humanity. Some days are hard. Some days suck. And that’s okay. It’s okay to feel antsy or resistant. Honestly, your spirit might be trying to show you a new perspective about your environment. And you know what?
If you need to crawl back in bed, take the day off, and try again tomorrow, that’s completely acceptable!