Have had a goal that you really wanted to accomplish but you reach the end of the year only to have been in the exact same spot you were in previously? Maybe you wanted to run a marathon or wanted to start your own business. While those are amazing goals to reach, they’re just dreams if we don’t apply ourselves in the right way.
This week, I am sharing 3 reasons why you’re not reaching your goals and what you can do to ensure they become more than just-out-of-reach dreams. When we don’t understand how we are going to reach them or we don’t remember why we want to reach them, it can get pretty discouraging when we aren’t able to make progress on our biggest goals and dreams. But, I want to change that for you.
So, I’ve created a list of why you don’t reach your goals and how you can change the course of direction for your new year.
You Don’t Understand How to Reach Your Goals
You are setting yourself up for failure if you don’t have an action in place for how you are going to meet those goals
Having a plan of action is key to accomplishing your goals, no matter how big or small. So how do we implement a plan of action? Well, you take actionable steps each and every day. And they don’t always have to be big actions.
In fact, most of our daily actions are small steps in the right direction. It’s a daily grind, a daily process that gets you closer with each day. But through these actions, you will begin to see progress. Success stories don’t happen overnight. Its weeks, months, even years of hard work behind these types of accomplishments.
We should all have the audacity to dream big. But, we should also all have the audacity to work small.
Focusing on your why and what motivates you
You can have a course of action and implement daily steps and still not be where you want to because you didn’t have enough passion behind them
Having a plan of action is a great first move. But it’s not the only move to take. You can have all your dreams lined out and work towards your goal every day. But if you don’t know why you’re pushing yourself so hard, then you will not be satisfied with the outcome.
Remember why you started in the first place or who you’re wanting to impact along the way helps us through the trials. It allows us to keep pushing even when we want to give up. Maybe it’s your children or your partner or simply changing the course for your life. Regardless of why you are chasing after your goals, it’s absolutely necessary to remember why we ever started in the first place.
Letting go of what you can’t control
Life is messy, chaotic, and unpredictable. Things happen in our life that we don’t expect. And these things can be amazing, unexpected things like having a baby or a shift in your business. But the truth of the matter is, we can’t always control the things around us.
There will be things in your life that you are not able to control and that’s okay. But we do have the choice of what we get to do to with those situations. We can allow ourselves to momentarily withdraw from our current goals to find new ones. Or maybe God or the universe or life, in general, is trying to get your attention with more pressing things at the moment. Sometimes when things happen, we realize that we no longer have the desire to keep pushing in a specific direction.
Why I didn’t meet my biggest goal in 2019
My BIGGEST goal for 2019 was to write 50,000 words for my rough draft of my very first book. And I did not reach my goal.
Cody and I unexpectedly came home from our NYC vacation to a flood in our house that ruined our hardwood floor downstairs. So instead of celebrating the last week of December and the first two weeks of January, we were forced to rip up our floor and put new flooring in. Of course, we wanted to focus on goal setting and setting intention for 2020 but we had to momentarily but our life on the back burner so we could focus on the main issue at hand.
Sure, I could have finished the 50,000 words before vacation. But also, I wasn’t able to focus on writing when we came home because of the flooring issue.
HOWEVER, y’all. I freaking wrote over 44,000+ words in 2019. Like, that’s such a huge accomplishment in itself. And tbh, I started to feel really bad about myself for not hitting my main goal. But I realized I didn’t have to take myself too seriously. I took ownership of my own actions, cut my losses, and moved on. And you know what? I am two weeks late writing this but I finally finished my 50,000-word goal and I am so dang proud of myself.
And I want you to be proud of the accomplishments you have made, regardless if they were on your goal setting list or not.
You freaking rock at life and have been brave and courageous and so many facets of life. It’s time to take ownership of you celebrate in those victories.